Category Archives: Body Image

Posts and stories about body image and how to look positively at body image and spread the positive word.

I Respect These Female Heroes So Much More With Tiny Waists And Sparkly Dresses! LOL J/K.

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Paige Worthy Reblogged from Paige Worthy from Upworthy.com
“There’s a place for princesses, and there’s a place for real, seriously ass-kicking women who are standing up to the world’s problems. Example: The thing about Malala as a princess? She didn’t get locked in a tall tower or eat a poison apple — the Taliban shot her in the head. She doesn’t need a gown or a tiara to create her place in history, and we need to be teaching that to little girls.Still not sure what the artist is doing here? Scroll all the way down for a great quote about it straight from him.”
Not sure if this is the way to address the issue but potentially the artist has good intentions, its just that I have already seen these images replicated around the internet and in some cases the message is that these fabulous female role models are not actually attractive enough naturally and need the ‘Disney Princess Treatment’.
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Oh my god I’m even doing it!

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c. 1622-1625 (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Yesterday as I was driving home from the shops I saw a lady in her late 50’s walking in the street and she was wearing a black t-shirt type top with the back of it being like a black mesh material that you could see through.  It was a nice top and looked great from the front but when the lady turned around so I could see the back, I immediately thought, gosh, she shouldn’t be wearing that!  I thought it because I could see some rolls of fat through the mesh.  Not because she was fat, merely because as you get older you do carry more weight and your bra starts to cause a bulge and you generally have some bulge’s on your back just above the waist.  All normal stuff but not acceptable in the female form in contemporary society.

And then I caught myself!!!!!  What am I talking about?  What made me think this way?  Then I realised that even though I talk about women accepting their body shape and women’s equality all the time, I am still affected by what is expected as an acceptable female body shape.  Then I thought to myself, why shouldn’t this lady wear these clothes and proudly show off the body she has that has probably borne children and lived.

Perhaps that was what she was thinking too.  I hope so.

Is wearing flat shoes the new bra burning of feminism?

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Recently I was sitting in a train carriage on the way into the city for a meeting and 12 out of 20 women were wearing flat soled shoes!

I thought that maybe this was just a coincidence or maybe they were on their way to work and would change into their heels when they got to work. So I decided to sit in the foyer of a large corporation at morning tea time (about 10am) to see if the trend continued. To my surprise, almost 2 out of every 3 women that walked past me had flat shoes on and it didn’t matter if they were in a suit, or casually dressed. I was not counting sandals or thongs in my mini survey, just closed in shoes. About time I thought, some sense is prevailing and then I thought “maybe this is a reaction to patriarchy just like the bra burning of the sixties”. What do you think? And for a laugh, I have attached a link to one of my recent post’s,  “Have you seen yourself in those Heels?”

 

Cynthia – A Changing Women

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Am 58 years old. Work as a Social Worker, have worked outside the home for 36 years. Married, with three grown children. Can’t believe the way my body has taken on curves. Did Curves for 2 years. Currently Hula-hoop daily. Like elastic waist Lands End pants. Like conservative dresses. Shop thrift stores. 5’5″ 131 lbs. Would love to retire, and open a shop to help women look and feel more beautiful, than they already are!


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This is a great article, So right, women need to be seen AND heard. Really for all women and girls, next time that are about to put on some item of clothing that looks good but restricts your movement, think of this article. I have written about a similar concept with high heels – a design concept reflecting the sexual position of the foot whilst having intercourse (that’s the seen part) and designed to restrict movement. I think that they have also been designed to show women looking stupid with many not being able to walk properly whilst they are wearing them!

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A few years ago, I had a professor explain the history of women’s inhabitations of space. We weren’t talking about outer space; stars, galaxies, and whatnot. We were talking about physical and intellectual space.

Historically, women’s outfits were designed to physically inhabit large spaces (think Victorian era ballgowns) and to draw attention to a woman’s appearance. These outfits took hours to put on and prepare and while they physically took up space (drawing attention to women), women were still restricted by them. These outfits physically restricted women and limited them to inhabiting physical space as opposed to intellectual space.

Sound confusing? It kind of is.. Instead think of it as that saying people used to (and sometimes still) say about kids; “children are meant to be seen and not heard’ and simply replace the word ‘children’ with the word ‘women’. Better?

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More fantastic Changing Women enjoying the beach

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Here are some magnificent women, with real bodies enjoying the sunshine recently at some sea baths in Sydney, October 2012.  Every single body is different, each so beautiful, each with its own tale to tell, each just the outward expression of that person’s inner beauty.  Reject the perfect image constantly promoted in the media, embrace life’s journey and the changes that it brings to your beautiful body.

Embrace your shape, your inner strength and beauty!

Say NO to porn in Sport! Stop the Lingerie Football League in Australia. by guest author Lily Munroe of “Freedom from Porn Culture”

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A young supporter, but does he know what he is supporting?

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What began as a form of half time entertainment during Gridiron matches at the super bowl in the US, has now evolved into the successful and controversial Lingerie Football League (LFL), ‘true fantasy football’ according to the website. Now Founder Mitch Mortaza is intent on bringing his franchise to Australia next year.

Yet our Australian Sports Commission (ASC) does not support the LFL nor does Sports Minister Kate Lundy who is strongly opposed, making a public statement that “As Minister for Sport, I can’t abide a spectacle that degrades women and threatens to undermine the progress of women in sport in Australia.” White Ribbon – Australia’s campaign to stop violence against women, fully support Kate Lundy’s position on the LFL, stating, “White Ribbon denounces initiatives that objectify or exploit women & supports @KateLundy ‘s comments.” Read the rest of this entry

Its so easy to send a message

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View from the 74th floor of Q1 looking north across Surfers Paradise. Taken on January 10, 2006. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Watching the television tonight I noticed an advertisement for the Gold Coast, Queensland (Australia) to hear the catch phrase, [the Gold Coast]”where men wear shorts and women wear  bikini‘s”.  The message I guess is appealing, a great place to go to see lots of girls in bikini’s, a place for lots of sun and a relaxed atmosphere – the beach, sun and sea, a place to have fun.

The underlying message to our young girls is different.  Whilst the ‘boys’ can be relaxed in their shorts, ready for fun and dressed for action, the ‘girls’ still need to be appealing.  They need to be sexually attractive, they need to be fun loving but stay sexy.  Am I too harsh?  Picture yourself wearing a comfy and relaxed pair of shorts for a moment.  You are comfortable, you can run, you can walk, you can sit on the floor with your legs stretched out, you can do manual work, you can play sport, you can drive a car, you can get on a bus, you can eat in a restaurant.  None of these messages to the men say that they need to be sexy at the same time. Read the rest of this entry

Different or made to be different?

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Playing Soccer

Just watched a couple of adult mixed touch football games, (men and women). Interestingly, from the sidelines in the stands the men and women all looked the same.  They were all wearing the same uniform and it makes such a difference in perception. You suddenly don’t think about ‘he’ or ‘she’ and how they are playing based on their sex or gender stereotype.  They all looked the same, all equal so you have to just judge them on how they play and not how the played according to them being male or female.  The women ran just as fast as the men, they kicked and tackled just the same, in fact everyone looked the same.  Closer to the action, you could see who was who, but even then some of the women were just as tall as the men and some of the men were just as short as the women.  It was so refreshing to just see ‘people’ playing on a level playing field.  All being competitive, yet having fun at the same time.

As women, have we purposely differentiated ourselves so much,  that it makes us seem so different to men?  Could this be one of the things that results in such different treatment to men?  Interesting.

Why your clothes don’t fit you like they look on the model

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We all know that our body shape changes over the course of our lifetime and for women it just changes and changes and changes and changes.  No sooner have you gotten past one milestone, like child-birth, when your body is changing shape again to cope with menopause, sickness, or your changing body may have changed due to a new lifestyle!

Your body may have changed for lots of reasons, but apart from gaining and losing weight, your real body shape changes as your life changes.  Most clothes are designed to fit a body shape that has no bulges, is straight up and down and pretty much straight out of the box as far as design goes so if you have a few extra kilo’s or just had a life changing experience like giving birth or menopause they don’t always fit comfortably anymore.  During Peri-menopause you seem to gain weight every week!  I know that I just keep going through clothes and sizes for a year despite rigorously exercising and being on a controlled diet, my shape changed despite my weight staying the same.  Finally my weight stabilized.  This is very frustrating.  this is one of those times in your life when you really feel like crap but you still want to look good.   During menopause, you are already going through so many changes in terms of your emotions, your thoughts about your life – and now you have to give up your favourite clothes as well!

In desperation, many of us turn to a comfort alternative, like elastic waistbands.  Many of these clothes are designed to fit bigger women, they just make you look shapeless and don’t give you the style that makes you feel good – so too often you chose between comfort or slightly uncomfortable but stylish.  I have a small frame so these types of clothes just overwhelm my body, making me look even more rounded and frumpish than I already feel!

During pregnancy and after child birth a number of things change and whilst will go back to their original shape it can still be annoying whilst you are waiting.  Be patient, your hips will have expanded, your breasts will have increased in size and you may be carrying additional weight around the tummy as a result of carrying a baby.

As you get older, your body does start to change.  You thicken in the hips, the thighs may get a little wider, your breasts have increased in size and your back has expanded.  You may have a tummy as a reward for carefully carrying children through pregnancy.  The tops of your arms will thicken, your fingers will get slightly thicker from years of productive work, and that delicate little necklace that you wore when you were nineteen now looks ridiculous on the neck that holds your wonderful head up.  It doesn’t matter how you started out, you will change – some more than others.

Many of these changes are not taken into account by fashion designers, who continue to show off their clothes on young stick like models that bear little resemblance to a real women.  So you wonder why your clothes don’t fit you anymore, and compare yourself to the magazines and television programs with smaller than small women representing a female body.  Many very well known television and movie personalities have tiny frames in real life.  Even Tom Cruise, who looks as large as life on the screen is actually quite short in statue.  We are not comparing apples with apples when we compare ourselves to some on television.

We all continue to wear clothes based on the current thin flat body shape design model and I want to shift that design model to a new one.  Here are some examples of what I mean about the current design model:

  • When you buy a nicely fitting T-shirt with cotton and added elastine for comfort – do you find that it keeps creeping up over your stomach towards your bust-line and you have to keep pulling it down? This is because it has been designed to fit someone with hips that are not much bigger than their waist so the shirt just can’t stay on your hips unless you have a flat stomach and hips slightly larger than your waist.  The elastine stretches past what it is designed for and just bounces up towards your stomach -much like an elastic band after it has been stretched and let go.
  • Do you find that shirts don’t seem to have enough give in the back shoulder area and when you go to the next size up its then too big in the bust or too long in the arms?  This is because they are all cut from the same pattern.  Of course the sizing changes from a 10 to a 14, etc, but there is no real allowance made for what the change in size really means as you age and your arms thicken and your back expands.  The concentration is on the bust measurement, the arm length and the shirt length.  So if this same model is used (as it is) to increase the sizes it doesn’t take into account the changing women’s body shape.
  • Shirt buttons that gape at the bust line – many shop attendants tell us to “just put a press dud in there to hold it together”.  Again this is due to the standard measurements of bust size that I mentioned above.  There is little thought for the positioning of the buttons for women that actually have a real bust.  When these designs are tested on ‘models’ of course they look good.  Models have little body fat so they are unlikely to have a bra bulge under the arm which puts more strain on the buttons and causes the whole blouse to gap.
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I have observed lots of these issues over many years , there are similar problems with dress, skirt and trouser designs.  There are some designers who have taken notice and designing fashion for real women.  Slowly things are changing.  We all want to be comfortable but still look good, and we all have days when we just can’t bear to put something tight on our stomach, so how would it be if you could feel comfortable and look good too?  Fantastic!

WHAT CAN WE DO TO CHANGE THIS?

If you see advertisements that have unrealistic models wearing clothes that should clearly be for an older women, or the models wearing the clothes could not possibly represent a real person, then write to the company and voice your concern.

Here is an example that I sent to “The Knot” agency on 11 January 2011 after seeing an ad on Facebook for clothes for the ‘Mother of the Bride’, with the response below. (Please note:  email addresses have been removed for privacy);

“—–Original Message—–

From: susannemoore

Sent: Tuesday, 11 January 2011 7:03 PM

To: [Grp] The Knot Support

Subject: [TKAU-GEN] General Enquiry

A message has been sent to you via the Contact Us form.

From: “Susanne Moore”

Message:

I went to your page from a Facebook link which talked about dresses for the Mother (of the bride) so I thought that there may be something of interest to me.  Imagine my disappointment when I found that the models representing us “mothers of the bride” to just be old enough to have a child in preschool – if that!  Hardly representing the body shape of an older “mother of the bride” type woman.  Great dresses, but I would not be buying something that looks good on a young clothes horse as this just indicates to me that your designers (and many that I currently use) have not thought about the older woman’s body shape.  Maybe the youngest mother would in reality be 32?  But most, like me, would be closer to 42, 52 or older.  Come on, why don’t you give us realistic models for some of these clothes?  Is it because they really won’t sit well enough on those of us with a tummy, nicely formed hips, often big boobs and a desire to be comfortable whilst still looking great.

REPONSE FROM ‘THE KNOT’

Hi Susanne,

Thank you for your enquiry.

I’m sorry you have found the images unhelpful. Unfortunately, the images supplied to us by brands are out of our control as they choose the models ect, and completely understand your disappointment in their choice of models.

We are working on pulling together a gallery of mothers from Real Weddings, who are Real Mothers (funnily enough!) which you may find more helpful- Stay tuned!  Please let me know if there are any particular styles you were looking for?

Kindest,

Alexandra Thompson

Fashion Editor

The Knot”

I tried to contact Alexandra again before posting this to see what had developed, but she has left the company.  Notice the section in bold “Unfortunately, the images supplied to us by brands are out of our control as they choose the models”.  I can understand that if you are selling something then you would like it to look as good as possible – hence the young thin models so the clothes just ‘hang’ as designed.  The problem is that there is an achievable expectation set in our minds of the way the clothes should look so when we put them on and they don’t look the same we blame ourselves.  Instead if we can understand the logic behind the marketing of fashion it will help us to feel better about ourselves and our bodies.

Please let me know what you think, I would be very pleased to hear from you.

Susanne Moore – Changing Women, embrace your shape!